i dare you to move

"The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 01:30:46 +0800

“The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness.”

- Daniell Koepke (via blua)

"The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about."

Tue, 14 May 2013 01:15:16 +0800

““The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.””

- Dr Wayne Dyer (via mishaboom)

thechocolatebrigade: People who are incredibly toxic will never realize their toxicity or how much...

Tue, 14 May 2013 01:13:05 +0800

thechocolatebrigade:

People who are incredibly toxic will never realize their toxicity or how much of it they shove down your throat. They will think their toxicity is normal. That it is okay. That it is fine.

And that is scary.

this. your every criticism of a toxic is just invalid.

dootzy: this video will make your day better thank you

Tue, 14 May 2013 01:06:23 +0800

dootzy:

this video will make your day better

thank you

disneypixar: This picture of Ellie can’t help but make your...

Sun, 12 May 2013 02:13:59 +0800

disneypixar:

This picture of Ellie can’t help but make your day.

gpoy on lazy weekends

"The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world..."

Sun, 12 May 2013 02:11:22 +0800

“The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”

- Jada Pinkett Smith (via princesslilitu)
this. awesome mom!

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Sun, 05 May 2013 23:11:44 +0800

"We need to accept our age. We need to accept many physical and mental illnesses and addictions. We..."

Thu, 02 May 2013 02:09:49 +0800

“We need to accept our age. We need to accept many physical and mental illnesses and addictions. We need to accept the past. We need to accept others as they are. This isn’t to say we need to like it, or that we can’t work to make the best of each of these entities, but we need to relinquish the idea that we have any power or responsibility to change them. Once people realize they can accept instead of fighting things beyond their control, they realize they have much more time and energy for things they can impact.”

- Ryan Howes, clinical psychologist (via psychotherapy)

"Studies show that meditation is associated with improvement in a variety of psychological areas,..."

Thu, 02 May 2013 01:37:18 +0800

“Studies show that meditation is associated with improvement in a variety of psychological areas, including stress, anxiety, addiction, depression, eating disorders and cognitive function, among others.”

- A Huffpost story about mediation and what it does to the mind and the body. Go sit already. (via poptech)

elizabethtown: reblogging again because of the...

Tue, 30 Apr 2013 00:50:32 +0800

elizabethtown:

reblogging again because of the explanation.

via the-absolute-best-posts:boredofnoooooodles:

“A bus stop with swings! Except the truth is even better. This is in Montreal and every summer they put up a series of musical swings. If you look in the background you can see more people swinging away.

Each swing is a set of four and has its own unique sound, but if you are in perfect harmony with the other 3 seats then an actual song is played. The theory is that you communicate and interact with people more if it’s for a specific goal and if you’re having fun.”

I want it here!

Because there was a moment when I was happy for quite some time that I long for sadness. Now...

Tue, 30 Apr 2013 00:42:36 +0800

Because there was a moment when I was happy for quite some time that I long for sadness. Now I’m in a melancholic and often hollow state that I force myself to be happy. I often just try to let the feelings be. But then I start worrying that soon the happiness or sadness will swallow me whole.

nubesque: “Do not fall in love with people like mewe will take you tomuseums and parksand...

Sun, 21 Apr 2013 01:21:06 +0800

nubesque:

“Do not fall in love with people like me
we will take you to
museums and parks
and monuments
and kiss you in every beautiful
place so that you can
never go back to them
without tasting us
like blood in your mouth”

"When I realized I was not my body, I became free."

Sun, 21 Apr 2013 00:58:20 +0800

“When I realized I was not my body, I became free.”

- (via kelsi-recovers)

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Fri, 12 Apr 2013 14:23:17 +0800

Study finds children with low self-esteem are often praised for personal qualities instead of efforts

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 14:18:20 +0800

Study finds children with low self-esteem are often praised for personal qualities instead of efforts:

boy-girl-wonder:

catbountry:

drtanner:

psshaw:

uprightbipedalist:

This is another one that’s just stacking up on information we’ve suspected for a while. When a child is praised for being smart or talented, it makes the stakes that much higher because they need to stay smart or talented in order to maintain their identity. Here’s the crux of this study:

“Adults may feel that praising children for their inherent qualities helps combat low self-esteem, but it might convey to children that they are valued as a person only when they succeed,” Brummelman said. “When children subsequently fail, they may infer they are unworthy.”

The west especially values this sorta-myth of inherent ability over hard work. The one upside is that it gives lazy jerks like me an out when math is revealed to be “not my thing” after the first couple tries.

This has been a huge problem for me with my own self esteem.

I always did tremendously well in school from the second I got there and had always been praised for being intelligent, creative, talented, etc., and as a result, I now suffer from extremely destructive perfectionism in just about everything that I attempt to do, ever.

Because, you know. If the things I do aren’t perfect, then I’m clearly not intelligent, creative, talented, etc., am I.

This explains so much.

ouch.

dorkstrider: kurlozmakara: if u ever want to stop having feelings just masturbate b/c at the peak...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 23:57:34 +0800

dorkstrider:

kurlozmakara:

if u ever want to stop having feelings just masturbate b/c at the peak of orgasm the human brain is incapable of processing emotion

inspirational

No, I do not need a consolation of “there is someone out there who could love and treat you...

Mon, 01 Apr 2013 22:18:51 +0800

No, I do not need a consolation of “there is someone out there who could love and treat you much better” because if I allowed myself and if you too decided to give us a try, we could be better. No, no.lasting regrets of what happened. And I would try to stop myself to longingly wonder, what could have been - because there are a whole wide world of possibilities! Some amazing, some scary, some sad, some heartbreaking.

Hey, do you know what is natural? That I fall for you. Maybe I have already slipped some way down but I resisted. Why? I’ve got a whole wide range of excuses, love. My favorite is: this is the best way to write this part of the story and its probably time to close this chapter.

"Don’t settle. Don’t finish crappy books. If you don’t like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you’re..."

Sat, 30 Mar 2013 20:55:10 +0800

“Don’t settle. Don’t finish crappy books. If you don’t like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you’re not on the right path, get off it.”

- Chris Brogan (via luxlights)

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Mon, 18 Mar 2013 17:01:51 +0800

thechillwave: God damn.

Mon, 18 Mar 2013 17:00:03 +0800

thechillwave:

God damn.